Posted: February 21, 2009 in frustration, Life, life with twins
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a week has passed since I actually posted on here.  It has just been a really rough week or so.  It is the same fight over and over and over and I am so tired of the fighting.  He still can’t “trust me”.  Everything I do makes him suspicious.

Last Monday, all the of the appliances were delivered to mom and dad’s house as well as carpeting.  I took the kids out to the house and mom, dad, and my aunt agreed to watch the kids so I could go to the gym.  It gave me a few minutes to myself and gave them some time with the grandkids/great niece and nephew.  They didn’t mind at all.  The problem was that the hubby thought I just dumped the kids off.  I tried to explain, but he just couldn’t get it.  This may be an ongoing problem especially when I go back to school……my parents will be right down the road in a month….I will utilize their free babysitting services…….they love their grandtwins… with it…….

So after my workout, I came back and we decided that we would go out to dinner.  So, when the hubby was done with work, her came out and we all loaded up and went to dinner.  The kids were “so-so” as far as their behavior went.  The hubby kept on feeding them and giving them bottle after bottle.  The kids were ready to burst!!!!  I was getting really annoyed.  They are kids, they are going to make noise.  It is not necessary to keep their mouths full at all times.

So, after supper, we headed back to mom and dad’s house.   The hubby stayed on a few minutes to help dad carry some trash to the curb.  I headed home.  I decided that because of traffic, I would take an alternate route.  It was a few more miles but nothing that should take too long.  Well, I couldn’t have been more wrong!!!!  I got home, carried one kid in, then carried the other back in, then got them undressed and changed and bottled…..the hubby got home and did what he usually does….cracks a beer….the first of a few….

The argument starts….over the fact that I went home a different way than I usually do……yup…….

The screaming started, I screamed right back, the neighbors got concerned……and called the police.

yeah, so at 9:30 pm, the cops were at my house.  And it was weird because at that point, we had gotten quiet.

The kids slept through the whole thing.  No one was hauled away.

So, I have gone out of my way all week to walk on eggshells and keep things quiet.

We need counseling.  We need to learn to communicate.  He needs to learn to trust me again.  A marriage without trust and communication CANNOT survive.

So, I am sorry that I have been quiet this week.  I am okay.  I just don’t know what to do anymore.

  1. Soralis says:

    I am sorry to hear that things are not going well for you. I find just having twins alone can put a strain on a relationship.

    Hugs and good luck

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